Dating seperated or going through divorce

By Tracy Achen If you are thinking about dating during divorce ... You may think that you are free to start a new relationship once the decision is made to separate or divorce.

But it is wise to hold off on the dating scene until after your divorce is finalized for a number of strategic, legal, and emotional reasons.

Strategic reasons not to date before divorce Emotions are raw during a divorce.

When you start seeing someone else, it is like rubbing salt into your husband's wounds.

And with the prevalence of cheating, a lot of times one partner has already begun a new relationship and the other partner is now seeking to get 'mine.' Once it's been decided by one, or both, partners to end the relationship, most typically both of partners start seeking a new relationship. If you really care about your new love interest then you'll apply more reason than emotion to your decision about dating while separated.

Being separated and not dating is one of the hardest temptations to resist. You'll also make your decision about more than just what you want.

A more accurate term for 'separated' in most of these cases would really be 'separating,' since few of these people are actually through their divorces or have completely ended their previous relationships.Marital misconduct can encompass a wide variety of actions, including adultery and cruelty.During the proceedings, the fact that a dating spouse is already separated will be noted, but that does not necessarily mean the circumstances of the new relationship will not be considered.In addition, in some states the new relationship may be considered in the division of property or alimony determinations, so the dating spouse may not get as much as they want out of the divorce depending on the new partner's financial circumstances.This is especially true if the dating spouse begins cohabitating with their new partner during the divorce process.